“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like”.
– Lao Tzu
Life at times can be difficult and it often feels easier to deny, avoid or fear the issue. However unless you acknowledge and accept what is happening in and with your life, what you are resisting and avoiding persists and change can not occur.
Acceptance is not about liking a situation, it is just recognition and acknowledging: this is how things are right now. When you don’t accept something, all you are doing is spending your time and energy on resistance rather than changing the situation. You will never be able to move forward with your life in regard to any situation you are in without acceptance.
Acceptance allows you to see possibilities. It’s an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and support who you are at this moment. It’s an agreement to love yourself, regardless of what else is happening in your life.
Acceptance starts from focusing on what is working in your life and your good qualities. It’s about being grateful for the small things that happen or are in your life every day. Progress really begins to happen when you can love and approve of the qualities you think of as ‘not good enough.’ What we see as our shadows, hide a key to what can be our greatness and that key can come to light when you accept what you see as your darker side, or even your light. (Accepting our good qualities can be as difficult as what we see as our bad). It is our own internal limiting beliefs which cause us to see things as a shadow or to deny them entirely. Others can often see these shadows and don’t see them as an issue or problem at all.
Take some time to sit and look at the facts, not the judgements or internal stories, feel the pain, the tension or what ever else comes up. Breathe slowly and allow tears, anger or any other emotion flow through you. You may want to get up and stamp, jump, hit a pillow, curl up in a ball and sob. It’s all ok. When you acknowledge the pain and accept what is the difficult feelings will pass and if you sit quietly for a few minutes or may be write things down, the first steps towards change or realisation of what you want will appear. Then small action steps is all that is required to unlock the change you desire.
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